(08-03-2014, 02:20 AM)ClaraKay Wrote: Do any of you guys/girls have similar feelings now or in the past? What have you done to address those feelings? Is this a sign that further transitioning is needed? As we integrate our female genders into our lifestyles, shouldn't there be a sense of relief and empowerment as the process goes forward?
Yes, I have. It is indeed a sign, but not a sign of anything other than human greed. It's in our nature. We get a bit of something, and we want more. We always think having more of something will make us happy.
Right here, flamesabers puts it rather well:
(08-03-2014, 08:56 AM)flamesabers Wrote: Phrased differently, imagine a generic situation in which a person thinks if he can achieve x,y, and z, his life will be dramatically better. He achieves his goals, but then still feels unhappy, perhaps as a result of putting too much emotional investment into how much better his life should have been after he completed his goals.
It's always "if I can do x" or "if I had y" -- "THEN I'll be happy!" It's just not so. Thinking that mere possessions or a little tangible thing here or there will bring happiness is just plain clouded thinking.
Happiness comes from within. If you don't have it, it's because you don't want it. If that sounds simplistic, it is... but it's true. It's a matter of adjusting your attitude. Instead of looking at and dreaming on what you don't have, try instead counting your blessings, so to speak. Focus on why your life is good, and the rest will follow.
In the case of transgenderism, what is the lofty goal? To become woman, of course! But can you? Can you ever become an XX-chromosomed bearer of children? Hah! Might as well that get notion out of your head straight away. So what does that leave you? Somewhere on a spectrum. Can you be happy somewhere on a spectrum, in your own little niche?
If you can't, you've got one hell of a tough row to hoe. But I don't believe that's the case.
The surgeons and the psychiatrists hold out SRS as the final step in a journey to happiness. Nonsense. It's marketing for their services, just as you can see with any other profession. How does marketing work? The marketer must create in you the perception that his product will fill a void in your life!
In the end, however... the only one who can really decide whether or not there is a void in your life... is you. You have to make the decision that you have enough of whatever it is you think you're missing.