(04-05-2014, 03:17 AM)MichelleM Wrote: (03-05-2014, 06:24 PM)ClaraKay Wrote: First group. No question.
Clara
Clara,
You say that with such certainty! That surprises me somewhat, given your significant male identity. Are you thinking that you only have that because you're a bio male?
I'm asking because I'm not so sure in my case. I have both a fairly strong masculine identity, and (as it turns out ) a fairly strong feminine identity. It's not clear to me, other than it would be very interesting to find out what it would be like, that that wouldn't still be the case if I were in the first group. So, right now, that has me joining flame in the second group, unless I can be swayed otherwise.
Michelle
Hi Michelle,
I understand your surprise, Michelle. I've written in the past that I have a strong male identity. There are three reasons why I picked group 1.
First, my Clara identity is not a static thing. As I embrace her and give her freedom, she is growing stronger each month. Many aspects of my male identity are being merged with my female identity, and I don't find that my male identity is being threatened or displaced.
Secondly, if I woke up tomorrow and found that I was a GG with the same personality, IQ, and moral values that I now have, I think I could adapt to the change fairly easily. Most of the things I like to do are not exclusively for men. I would be viewed, though, as a strong-minded, independent, and somewhat unconventional woman, much like several woman in my relation.
Thirdly, I've discovered that my allegiance to the male sex is fairly weak. I prefer the company of women and men who have a softer side. I have few male friends; my wife is my best friend, in fact. I never really liked the male body. I've tried nearly all my life to fit the template of a normal American man, and never could really make it work. I love the female form, and would prefer to look like a woman. I guess that's why I'm growing breasts, ridding myself of body hair, and why I like to dress up as a woman. I wish I could fit the female template well, but that's simply impossible.
Maybe I'm wrong, but the only thing that I would miss as a woman is the muscular strength that I now have (although I'm nowhere near as strong as most men). I would have to compensate for that, or forego some pursuits.
My sexual orientation would switch to same sex since I'm sure I would still be attracted to women. Would I want to be attracted to men instead? That would make me a different person, wouldn't it? I'll say 'no'.
Clara