21-03-2014, 01:01 AM
I was not going to comment on this...
but I simply cannot remain silent.
I am pissed.
The suicide rate or at least the rate of those who attempt it, among TG people in the United States is 41%, which is NINE times the national average. Lets think about that.... four out of every ten of us on this board are likely to attempt or even succeed in killing themself.
Why?
Simply put, anyone with any form of Gender Dysphoria faces a hate filled society bent on laughing at and deriding all of us. We are the butt of jokes. We are abused, beat up and ridiculed. We are called names. Our wives leave us. Our employers fire us. The scorn heaped on TG people would be criminal if applied to any other kind of group. And the loneliness and despair that often accompanies a dysphoria is nearly unbearable in itself alone.
In the face of all that, learning to come to terms with things, accept ourselves for who and what we are and begin to live is a relentlessly tough and often terrifying journey.
But then, to face the idea that needing help to do so is wrong, or weak....?
And OMG, the utter ridiculous irony of being TG on a forum where people come to grow breasts on a bio male body ... being told to tough it out ?....and "man up"? ....Are we freaking kidding here?
This is surreal... and would be rolling on the floor funny if not for being so totally friggin tragic.
Maybe there are some people who need no help to "get their head together". Maybe. If so... more power to them...Therapists and anyone even remotely connected with mental health will proclaim loudly that the single hardest part of dealing with any mental difficulty, from full blown psychosis to the mildest of depression, is owning up to the fact that you can use a little help. And they are right. Fact. Don't like that fact? Tough.
Why?
Because we are constantly told that "weakness" is bad. That "weakness" is for inferiors. That admitting we need help is bad, wrong, an admission of... horror of horrors! ... Weakness. Oh no... not weakness! .oh no, we are told that "real men" don't need help. That it is wrong to ask for assistance. That it is wrong to admit weakness....LOL...give me a break. Give me a huge friggin break.
This despite centuries of history showing countless "weak" individuals who have attained great heights in many fields from art to science to you name it. Weak does not equal worthless. There is another "fact"
Give me a break. Yeah, "real men" don't need help... right.
That is exactly the attitude that ends up causing shootings at schools!
That "tough it out" attitude is at the heart of most of what is wrong with this country.
And finally, it completely ignores the fact that to legally obtain synthetic hormones in this country through the prescribed channels it is necessary to obtain a recommendation from a therapist for such treatment. Which is what the OP was doing, and celebrating success at doing so.
And a diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria has nothing.... nothing whatsoever in common with any disease. It is simply an acknowledgement of a situation which may be assisted by the application of synthetic hormones.
Way to kill a girl's buzz! Congratulations. I hope you feel great. But I doubt you do, sweetheart. That set of attitudes hints at a lot of pain and self loathing being redirected at others. If the attitude did not make me so angry I would feel bad for you. It must be hard to carry all that around. I know it is.
People come here for information, sure, but many come here for support as well. They don't come here to face the tough guy attitudes they can easily find almost anywhere else. They come here because they can use a little help. And that is not weak... that is brave. People on this road deserve all the love, help and respect they can get.
They certainly do not come here to face further derision.
If I have misunderstood you, then gee, I am sorry... but there sure did not seem to be much room for misunderstanding.
End of rant.
Fwoodhull, honey, I for one am extremely happy for you! You go girl!
but I simply cannot remain silent.
I am pissed.
The suicide rate or at least the rate of those who attempt it, among TG people in the United States is 41%, which is NINE times the national average. Lets think about that.... four out of every ten of us on this board are likely to attempt or even succeed in killing themself.
Why?
Simply put, anyone with any form of Gender Dysphoria faces a hate filled society bent on laughing at and deriding all of us. We are the butt of jokes. We are abused, beat up and ridiculed. We are called names. Our wives leave us. Our employers fire us. The scorn heaped on TG people would be criminal if applied to any other kind of group. And the loneliness and despair that often accompanies a dysphoria is nearly unbearable in itself alone.
In the face of all that, learning to come to terms with things, accept ourselves for who and what we are and begin to live is a relentlessly tough and often terrifying journey.
But then, to face the idea that needing help to do so is wrong, or weak....?
And OMG, the utter ridiculous irony of being TG on a forum where people come to grow breasts on a bio male body ... being told to tough it out ?....and "man up"? ....Are we freaking kidding here?
This is surreal... and would be rolling on the floor funny if not for being so totally friggin tragic.
Maybe there are some people who need no help to "get their head together". Maybe. If so... more power to them...Therapists and anyone even remotely connected with mental health will proclaim loudly that the single hardest part of dealing with any mental difficulty, from full blown psychosis to the mildest of depression, is owning up to the fact that you can use a little help. And they are right. Fact. Don't like that fact? Tough.
Why?
Because we are constantly told that "weakness" is bad. That "weakness" is for inferiors. That admitting we need help is bad, wrong, an admission of... horror of horrors! ... Weakness. Oh no... not weakness! .oh no, we are told that "real men" don't need help. That it is wrong to ask for assistance. That it is wrong to admit weakness....LOL...give me a break. Give me a huge friggin break.
This despite centuries of history showing countless "weak" individuals who have attained great heights in many fields from art to science to you name it. Weak does not equal worthless. There is another "fact"
Give me a break. Yeah, "real men" don't need help... right.
That is exactly the attitude that ends up causing shootings at schools!
That "tough it out" attitude is at the heart of most of what is wrong with this country.
And finally, it completely ignores the fact that to legally obtain synthetic hormones in this country through the prescribed channels it is necessary to obtain a recommendation from a therapist for such treatment. Which is what the OP was doing, and celebrating success at doing so.
And a diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria has nothing.... nothing whatsoever in common with any disease. It is simply an acknowledgement of a situation which may be assisted by the application of synthetic hormones.
Way to kill a girl's buzz! Congratulations. I hope you feel great. But I doubt you do, sweetheart. That set of attitudes hints at a lot of pain and self loathing being redirected at others. If the attitude did not make me so angry I would feel bad for you. It must be hard to carry all that around. I know it is.
People come here for information, sure, but many come here for support as well. They don't come here to face the tough guy attitudes they can easily find almost anywhere else. They come here because they can use a little help. And that is not weak... that is brave. People on this road deserve all the love, help and respect they can get.
They certainly do not come here to face further derision.
If I have misunderstood you, then gee, I am sorry... but there sure did not seem to be much room for misunderstanding.
End of rant.
Fwoodhull, honey, I for one am extremely happy for you! You go girl!
