(23-04-2014, 12:41 AM)Samantha Rogers Wrote: It is quite another to simply turn away in blind rage and fling blame, scorn and derision at the same person you swore to love, especially when the condition for which they are receiving this foul treatment is something with which they were likely born through no fault of there own.
Being born gender variant is indeed not the man's fault, but what he chooses to do about it is certainly his responsibility, particularly when it comes to being open and honest with his spouse.
I have (confession time) never been married, but I've come close, and had various relationships anywhere between days and years. One thing I have never done is to hide my feminine side. I am perfectly happy to give a partner a heads-up, so to speak... and to let her make the decision if she wants to be with a pretty boy. That decision has always come down to a "yes", but it's always early enough that a "no" isn't going to hurt any feelings. Though in the past few years, I haven't had to say anything as it's rather obvious.
What we're talking about here, however, are the guys who have hidden this aspect of themselves from their wives for years, possibly decades. I don't care who you are, where you come from, or how awful your childhood was, you don't get to hide shit like that from your spouse and expect zero consequences!
(Let this right here and now be said... if you're thinking of getting married and your wife-to-be doesn't know, you'd best pull your head out of your ass right now, or you'll assuredly have it kicked in there later. You WILL be found out someday.)
That said....
(23-04-2014, 12:41 AM)Samantha Rogers Wrote: That site is filled with shallow and hateful women intent on playing the victim. This is not a political issue. This is an issue of emotional immaturity and an issue of inability to truly love.
There is definitely that element. I wouldn't pretend for a second that these women aren't spiteful and bitter.
I'll also point out that all the anger and rage are useless. They are reactionary emotions that, long run, don't do anyone any good. People need to vent when they're betrayed, but there's a time period after which bitching becomes counterproductive. At that point, they need to fish or cut bait... work to repair the relationship, or move on.
I will stipulate that some women are just nasty and mean, period. I know a few, but try to avoid them generally...! I'd not wish them on my worst enemies; some I'd rather die of cancer than marry -- it'd be quicker and more humane.
But to be perfectly fair, most of the wives of CDs I know wouldn't set foot on that site, because they're totally cool with it. (These would be the ones who knew this about their husbands before they got married!)
Now, the real ugly:
As much as you lot reading this might be great, if girly, husbands... it would be a mistake to assume that of all crossdressers. I've known a few trannies who are just really shitty people. They might be drunkards, drug abusers, wife beaters, womanizers, any number of things.
One thing I am reasonably sure of: among the angry wives' club there, I'll promise you, crossdressing is NOT the only issue in the marriage. It might be the one they're screaming about in that forum, but never is that kind of raw emotion the product of only one disagreement.
But the overall tone of this thread is that all crossdressing men are wonderful, and therefore the angry wives are just nail-spitting cunts.
Well... I just can't make that assumption, however many times it may actually be the right one. I've just seen and heard too much.
