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(16-07-2014, 05:21 PM)ClaraKay Wrote: Yes, Andrea, GD can only be relieved by correcting the sex/gender mismatch. There is no known 'cure' for cross-gender identity. It's not something that can be reprogrammed, period.
My wife and I had a long conversation with another TG and her wife who is struggling to accept her husband's need to transition. She asked my wife --who has reconciled herself to my need to transition-- how she does it. My wife replied that, of course she is saddened by the loss of her male mate, but understands that this is something that has to be if I'm to be rid of my anxiety and the psychological damage that it does to me.
If your mate falls ill or becomes disabled, do you end the relationship? Of course not, not if you love him. My wife explained that this upheaval in her life is far less of a problem than other possible life crises. Plus, there are many positives -- a happier, kinder, and more sensitive husband is often the result.
The next day, my trans friend told me how much talking to my wife help his wife progress toward accepting her transgender condition and realizing that it does not have to be seen as a threat to their marriage.
Clara
I'm starting a new thread somewhat related to this. We have been visiting my stepson and his fiancee, and having a fabulous time, but with limited opportunity to post. We are back home tomorrow and I'll try to catch up with things.
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Well tomorrow morning is the day I officially come out to my dr and ask for hrt wish me luck ladies.
Ps shaking like a leaf with nerves and excitement.
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You will be fine, Andrea. You believe in yourself, honey. The doctor wont bite. Lol
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You will be fine andrea, i was dreading it so found it best to just get it over and done with, my doctor was really nice about it and referred me to a gender identity clinic, he was even ok with me self medicating and didnt give me a hard time with that
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Hi Andrea,
I'll help you write your post after your doctor visit....
"Well. everything went very well. The doctor was so professional and put me at ease from the start....."
That's as far as my clara voiance can see...LOL.
Good luck, hon.
Clara
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Thank you for all the well wishes just getting ready to go now will update you all when I get back.
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Well i just got back from my doctor. It went great he told me that there is nothing wrong with me its just who I am. He did not want to get into labeling me he just wanted to make sure i got the help i need. He is going to do some research and try to find the best specialist for me to get me toward where I need to be. I go back in three weeks to see him and find out where to go. He is also going to try and find some support groups for me in the city so i can finally meet others like me. I feel like a great weight has been lifted off my shoulders as I let more people into my secret.
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Andrea, that is great. I knew it would be that way for you. All our greatest fears turn out to be paper tigers when we have the courage to confront them. Good luck with everything, honey.
Hugs
Sammie
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Fantastic, Andrea. Too bad you have to wait 3 more weeks. I know how impatient we can be to get to where we need to be. Still, this is very good news for you, and I'm routing for you all the way.
Clara
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Thats great news andrea, 3 weeks isnt bad either, i had to wait 3 weeks just for a letter from the nhs letting me know that the gic anticipate in seeing me sometime in the next 18 weeks
