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Hi again, Julie.
So...
Bra was actually Ok, fortunately. ;-)
As to "keeping the little guy fit," that's one of those things: Use it or lose it.
I found this site by accident, being more of a TS when I was younger. Probably means I still am, but anyway...
You want to keep the equipment working, you need to figure it out the hard way. Pr0n, a partner, a dildo and prostate massage, whatever works - including a monthly viagra or such. You'll need to keep the blood vessels working and the tissues stretched. Other Vasodilators and pumps can be used as well. Nicotinic acid, I think, is the correct B vitamin. (Niacin, B-3). Niacinamide, the other form, is the flush-less version, I think.
Off-topic, you might want to review the pumping options (Good Looking Loser has articles on the Bathmate - worth a look, but not cheap.)
Additionally, rings work once you're there, you'll want to do more research on that, I have never used them.
So, with the basic blood vessel and muscle care somewhat addressed, you'll need to figure out the harder part.... What gets you harder? ;-)
You'll probably acquire a more Feminine arousal pattern, longer foreplay, more touching, more interaction, more feeling. A good option is to incorporate triggers into your play (with or without her, we're talking psychological triggers to make a result). Is she against toys (in you)? Maybe insertion can be a trigger, and you use a plug. Or, you play with forced or induced erections paired with nipple stimulation. (An old FemDom site focusing on feminisation suggested this; it used to work for me, but I'm no longer "trained" for a variety of reasons, including never going past the, "Hey, it works!" stage. ;-) Basically, the line was, "Tease him (her) with nipple play while dosing with hormones. When the nipple play results in erection, you're on the right path...") Other triggers can be induced, too. It could be as simple as cracking a whip (Like the bell in Pavlov's experiments). Sound of whip = BOING! No whip needed, either.
Beyond the triggers and mechanical assistants, though, there's our old friend, staying power or endurance. Edging will work for that. Get right to the edge, then stop. Repeat frequently. It will desensitize the nerves a bit to the sensations, which in this case, is good. With that aspect under control, make sure the body is in good condition. I used to be VERY proficient... Now, it's more mechanical, sorry for the TMI. But it's a question of stress, partner (Hippo), lack of physical activity (Her exercise consists of curling the remote and jumping to conclusions - and because if I go to the gym alone, I'm abandoning her, I'm in the worst shape of my life, and getting older, it's a BIG deal...)
Point being, make sure you are flexible and strong, think more marathon and Iron Man triathlon than the 500# overhead press, or a 1,000# deadlift - one PUSH, and it's done. Long, slow, hard, beats short, fast, done. Endurance and aerobic training. Swimming, Yoga, cycling.
Lastly, though most women aren't as interested - if he's DOWN for the count, while it's of value to play with him, the main course can always involve a strap-on. They are made to accommodate men as well. Women I've talked to don't like the artificial as much, but.... If it's a choice between nothing and a copy, the copy is better than nothing. And, if you want - there are "make your own" kits out there which allow you to model your specific equipment, and then use that.
But after that, you'll have to find your own way....
For example, mine is turned off by anything feminine.... So, boobs are an issue. (I had them before we met, BTW. They've gotten bigger as the weight's gone up, but they were THERE, they were OBVIOUS. And if we could GTFO and work out a bit, instead of watching endless TV, we'd BOTH be better off. Anyway... Sorry to keep sidetracking down that negative slalom.)
If you can grow the breasts and keep the little fellow going, it sounds like you'll be in a great spot for both you and her. Makes me a bit envious. :-)
You'll also want to think in terms of "worst case" scenario - what if he stops working? What if that's permanent? How will she cope? Maybe alternative lifestyle would be something to explore (which is too far beyond the scope of the board, PM me for ideas if needed.)
Last options are:
- injectable T, I can't help much there, since you'd want a short-term reaction for immediate use. No idea of efficacy, effectiveness, duration, etc.
- Penile replacement, a "mechanical" inflatable insert to replace the tissues there. You'd need medical advice, I don't know anything except it's supposedly out there already. Personally, I think it'd be great - "She" shrinks down to a nub for bikini wear, then in the shower with your woman afterwards, a few presses on the right spot, "HE" is standing proud and ready to deliver. Best part, he won't ever go away, so as long as you can keep going, so can he, and she can really enjoy...
Good luck, and keep us posted! :-)
-Jean