(01-11-2015, 12:42 PM)dcdee Wrote: I agree with WantAPair.
Wearing women clothes is who is I am. The sad part is that my physical gender does not match my emotional gender. I am changing both slowly, integrating women clothing and mannerisms into my daily life everywhere i can and feminizing my body with NBE.
Someday I hope to get the courage to come out to the world and have them say, DUH we knew that years ago.
Do you have any friends that know and are okay with it? If so, maybe you can go out together with you in full fem and they can bolster you to do it and it'll at least gradually make you more comfortable to do it in public AND get people used to seeing you the way YOU want to be seen!
As for my statement, partially, it was a joke someone interviewing us, once, asked something about the band, I forget what the question was, but, one of my guitarists suddenly answered with, "It's not a band, it's a way of life!"), but, what I meant was that if someone around here in Small Town sees me en femme for Halloween, it's seen as a costume, then I continue to do it afterwards and they think I'm still in costume! As much as I'd LOVE to do it and have the freedom to do it, I don't want it to become a costume!
When playing in the bad, I would always wear a leotard, pantyhose and a mini skirt. Partly it was just because it worked for me to be able to play the way I play. In a minor way, it IS a costume, at least for the stage, but, there's more function than fashion going on, however, I'm also hoping that it'll open peoples' minds to be more accepting of a guy in a skirt and pantyhose in public, as well as more accepting of me in en femme!! It worked both ways at least 99% of time! Problem is, I never got the chance to do it here in my neighborhood!! Well, twice, but not that many people showed up for either of those gigs! So, around here in Yuppieburgh Junior, I'm not at all known for doing that! And, because I already stick out like a sore thumb, and a lot people here know me & My family (we've been here since 1936), it's gonna be pretty hard!