(24-07-2016, 09:38 PM)julieTG Wrote: Katie
That's beautiful statement
Pls tell us more and help guide iaboy and us on this thread
Julie
oh sweetie, I wish I could! but all Iv got is my own experience and perspective, and in this journey there is no one size fits all or any One answer.
I think Ownership is very important with this though, accepting it Yourself can be very hard to do, we can often get in our own way and be our own worst enemy, I embrace the fact that I`m Trans and Bisexual, I`m no longer terified or Worse in denial! about it, heheheh I even figure it makes me a bit more interesting than Joe Binary too
On the subject of Binaries, I avoid them like the plague! infact going out dressed Genderfuck (google it) is like a sport to me now
You have to "do whatever it takes to make Your life worth living! Just don`t be mean." (Kate Bornstein).
having a diagnosis like this Can seem a bit daunting in its implications sure, so could a Letter from NASA saying you`de make a perfect Candidate for their next Mission, you could use it as Wow how cool is that! or holy crap I`m scared of heights!!!!! you don`t have to act upon it (once upon a time you lacked choice, and E.C.T was plainly on the table!).
if you want to persue it Great! if not Great too, but sooner or later the dysphoria could come back, and that`s nothing to fear either! in fact it`s a Very powerful motivator/driver and something you Will need to see you through this, eventually things can get so "Bad" (read Driven) that fear will fall away like a sandcastle at high tide, and you`ll just Do the next step whatever that might be.
I don`t hate my dysphoria, I use it, it`s a Guide, it lets me know I need to do something still, it keeps me moving forward (a Good thing in my opinion).
oh yeah, and Don`t even think of trying this mountain in one step, it`ll overwhelm you, as will thoughts of going out dressed or srs or maybe even comming out to your Mom! (the latter is my current issue, yeah, even at My age! LOL).
Break it all down to easier Doable bits, it`s like making a T.V, probably really hard for some, but when you break it down it`s only 2 radios and an oscilloscope!
so is transitioning (no not the radio part unless Cylon is your chosen gender? and I find Cylons Sexy as F**k too!) but I digress...
the Net is Littered with little ideas to feminise yourself, I personally added a little bit of each until it became just Normal, then I`d add something else, then that became the new normal and so on, now I look at myself sometimes at what Im wearing out and it would have been unthinkable the month before, and oddly the month before I was thinking the same thing about the month before that!
some say it`s a slippery slope and it kinda is I guess, If you don`t fight it and dont look down! just enjoy the ride and Know you`ll be safe!
You`ve Already PROVEN that you`re a survivor (and a very good one at that!) just by getting to this place intact! that in itself is nothing short of Heroic!
I could say a load of cliche` crap about longest journeys and single step or mention about Rome not being burned in a day etc... but that`s not helpful really so I won`t.
Do try and avoid taking yourself too seriously too, just look at how ridiculous the whole situation is anyway, how can someone fail to see funnier elements in the whole thing?
LOL, reminds me of the other day, My daughter had left school and send good luck graduation gifts for her friends, one of those gifts was a good luck fairy thing that you put the persons name on etc... my wife was going to do it as she has nice writting but I said to my wife "Shall I do it?", she gave me a funny look because my writing is at best Crap! and asked me "Why?", I said "so then you can say it was signed by a Real Fairy!". I guess ya had to be there
I`m going to leave it there for now before I run out of keyboard ink.
