27-03-2017, 02:34 AM
(26-03-2017, 10:59 PM)GamerGuy Wrote: Im glad you have that strength to go on with your life so easily. I've been through so much that it makes a person want to just throw in the whole towel rack and the wall it's stuck to. I appreciate what advice you're giving me, and the time you are taking to give it. But everyone is different and can handle different situations in different ways, or the inability to. What I need more than anything is a paying job so I have the financial ability to get out of the situation. Unfortunately she is not going to let that happen. My meager tax return is gone now too, by her doing. But now my ex has told me that once I get a job she is going to railroad me for all the child support she can despite her having sufficent income already. Fucked if I do, fucked if I don't. Thoughts of just ending it all are coming back to me again. I don't know what to do any more. All my known options end in despair. I try to think of my kids when I get thoughts of suicide but the government believes that money makes a good parent. Why does everything in existence have to depend on this shit. All my problems are multiplied by MONEY.
Sorry to hear things are that bad, Gamer.
It is probably time to talk to a domestic violence shelter. According to the Duluth model, she's a real piece of work. Worse than mine.
While I understand the concern regarding your children, it may be necessary to cut contact for a bit, since even the Ex is part of the problem. I have to wonder what the source of the animosity is? (PM)
As you yourself noted - a father is more than an ATM. The State doesn't see it that way, but if you haven't noticed, Alinsky's rules for Radicals has been employed on this country for longer than the book has existed... For a reason. You cannot change the Seven Deadly Sins and their effects on society, especially if you allow removal of God from the public sphere. (Note that which God, or IF god exists, is irrelevant, it is the external threat of punishment that will keep the cowardly evil in line. Politicians, for example. Not so much highwaymen and thieves and murderers who do it even now, but those who come to think they are a power unto themselves. E.G., Clinton. Bush. Christie. Bloomberg. Rahm. Etc.)
I'd also suggest you talk to a lawyer, as legally, abandonment has specific legal meaning, and I don't know it. If you have a job opportunity, but must be elsewhere to work? That could likely be dealt with in a legal system.
I'll also tell you, point blank, I'm pretty much ready to jump in front of a train on any given day. I got sidetracked into a stub yard about 10 years back. There are only dead ends... But I've got tax returns coming soon, so I'm slightly ahead of you, I guess. Life sucks, but there's only one direction to go...
Another question: is it a joint account, does she have her own, does she have access to your account...? In any of those cases, you need to separate your finances, immediately. You might need to endure a lot longer and hide funds, but it can be done. A little at a time, and you build enough to move out and on.
And hold out hope that you can in fact get the Ex to stop being a c_nt... The state you live in will have certain laws in place. If you're just getting back on your feet, you can likely get some leeway... And if you don't tell the Ex for a few weeks... months... How would she know? Unless she's in league with the new witch? Always an option.
The less legal options are looking better, BTW. Hacking the car, for example, if you can. I don't like such options, but... When the system is protecting the criminals, and injuring the innocent? What choice is there?
-Dianna
