[Elissa-FinallyAChick]

It’s killing me to be single.
Being single and trans is the worst combination you can think of.
Especially when you are a straight trans woman like myself.
Cis men are so insecure to be labeled gay,... for dating a pre-op trans woman. 

I so wish I was born as a cis woman. Things would have been so much easier.

Guys tell me that I’m cute but they always leave the second part of their sentence away. What they mean is “ cute for a transsexual “ or “ cute to fool around with “ 

But never “ cute to love and spend my life with “ .

I want a normal relationship with a straight man too, just like other girls my age. Why does everything have to be so much more complicated for a condition I didn’t have control over?

I think they would even react this way if I were post-op. From the moment they hear “ transsexual “ they will either run away, kill you or fetishize you.

Never this “ I don’t care, you are still the woman I want to be with “ response.

I want to put myself out there, be honest about my transsexual medical history with men, but I want to be seen for me. Not just for my body or for my trans history. For me, as a woman where transsexual is just that adjective that this woman carries around.

I want a man who will love me just the same, the same as if I were born in the correct body from the start.

Dating as a straight trans woman who transitioned post-puberty and is pre-op sounds like a never-ending Odyssee.

Where are all ‘em cute guys at who don’t care about my trans past?

I put an advertisement on Craigslist and was confronted with tons of chasers and crossdressers ( eggs who secretely want to transition themself ). 

While I clearly put in my advertisement that I was not willing to use my penis and that I have plans for an SRS.

Most guys want to fullfill their “ shemale “ fantasy with a girl like me.

Why can’t the chasers just hire an escort and leave me alone?

When will dating get better? 
I want a boyfriend. One with an open mind, a basic amount of empathy and intelligence and one who will love me more than anyone else in this world.

At university I seam to attract more girls than guys. 
While my face is not male and I have been on hormones for 27+ months so I give off female pheromones. Yet, women approach me in an “ I’m interested in you as a dating match “ way.
Why can’t I attract one hell of a hot straight guy who wants me to be his princess and will protect and love me?

Those women who approach me as a “ dating match “ make me dysphoric as hell.

I’m a girl, that’s obvious, why do I still face this much difficulty?
I so want to give up on dating.

Needed to vent somewhere.

Hugs,
Elissa.

[tanysquirrel]

It’s killing me to be single.
Being single and trans is the worst combination you can think of.
Especially when you are a straight trans woman like myself.
Cis men are so insecure to be labeled gay,... for dating a pre-op trans woman. 

I so wish I was born as a cis woman. Things would have been so much easier.

Guys tell me that I’m cute but they always leave the second part of their sentence away. What they mean is “ cute for a transsexual “ or “ cute to fool around with “ 

But never “ cute to love and spend my life with “ .

I want a normal relationship with a straight man too, just like other girls my age. Why does everything have to be so much more complicated for a condition I didn’t have control over?

I think they would even react this way if I were post-op. From the moment they hear “ transsexual “ they will either run away, kill you or fetishize you.

Never this “ I don’t care, you are still the woman I want to be with “ response.

I want to put myself out there, be honest about my transsexual medical history with men, but I want to be seen for me. Not just for my body or for my trans history. For me, as a woman where transsexual is just that adjective that this woman carries around.

I want a man who will love me just the same, the same as if I were born in the correct body from the start.

Dating as a straight trans woman who transitioned post-puberty and is pre-op sounds like a never-ending Odyssee.

Where are all ‘em cute guys at who don’t care about my trans past?

I put an advertisement on Craigslist and was confronted with tons of chasers and crossdressers ( eggs who secretely want to transition themself ). 

While I clearly put in my advertisement that I was not willing to use my penis and that I have plans for an SRS.

Most guys want to fullfill their “ shemale “ fantasy with a girl like me.

Why can’t the chasers just hire an escort and leave me alone?

When will dating get better? 
I want a boyfriend. One with an open mind, a basic amount of empathy and intelligence and one who will love me more than anyone else in this world.

At university I seam to attract more girls than guys. 
While my face is not male and I have been on hormones for 27+ months so I give off female pheromones. Yet, women approach me in an “ I’m interested in you as a dating match “ way.
Why can’t I attract one hell of a hot straight guy who wants me to be his princess and will protect and love me?

Those women who approach me as a “ dating match “ make me dysphoric as hell.

I’m a girl, that’s obvious, why do I still face this much difficulty?
I so want to give up on dating.

Needed to vent somewhere.

Hugs,
Elissa.

 sorry to hear you feel this way. I think we all go through that, those of us who want to fully transition. 

I personally find it easier to remain single, for some of the reasons you state above.  *hugs* I hope you find someone that will love you for you, not for what is between your legs, but between your ears.

[Happyme]

Hi Elissa!
One of the first things you learn when trying to blend or pass is to just present as a woman. forget the worry about who will clock me.
From reading your post you seem focused on being trans.
So present yourself as a woman. find a man you enjoy and be the woman you are.

If you had a nasty scar on your inner thigh you wouldnt make that a focal point of your date would you.
So let the woman find a man that will like and fall in love with the woman you are.
Then after you have made the emotional connection you can tell him you physical imparity and your plans to correct it.
Follow your heart
Bobbi

[VergeOfDiscovery]

I personally find it easier to remain single

Same here