(11-06-2018, 10:55 AM)happyfeet Wrote: I don't know what to do I've been given free range with no adult supervision. Well I had to promise that I wouldn't just go all out right off which I m fine with.
I already have bras and pantie,now I have some really great fitting jeans and her shirts fit me. (She's a rather well blessed lady ). So where do I start ? What do I do?
First thing is to have an idea of where you ultimately want ti be, what do you see yourself doing or wearing etc... in the future, you can`t go to a train station and ask for "a Ticket", they`ll usually want to know Where it is you want to go, so get yourself some sort of idea about that first.
I think it woild be a good idea to get the absolute Basics you`ll need for going Out as yourself, even though this may seem impossible or unthinkable right now, it won`t be evertually!
You can wear her tops? well Don`t! buy your own! sharing clothes is something that May come Much later and usually only in certain circumstances, do Not make a habit of it.
Avoid buying all the stupid stuff many trans identified people buy in the early day, the flourescent pink mini-skirts and 6 inch heels etc... it`s an Insult to women and a great way to get yourself ridiculed and possibly killed, that kind of stuff if you insist on wasting your money on it should stay in the bedroom only.
instead, get yourself some Sensible flats, a good pair of jeans and a couple of nice long tops (long enough to cover any bad tucks), sweaters/jumpers long cami tops (my usual), plain cotton knickers and a nude color bra (you can wear them with any color).
Accesorise, get a hand bag and a purse for your money, get a sensible bag with enough room for your purse, fone, keys, lipstick, tissues etc... Black is good starter color as it goes with most things. some Simple ear rings and maybe a bracelet or 2 (I wear bangles), a womans watch and maybe a nice necklace (NOT a damn choker! like some seem to go for, Sluty is NOT a good look!).
go online and get yourself a mixed bag of perfume samples and also do the same with lipsticks, this will help you find your color range of works and doesn`t without having to buy whole tubes of it at a time, and the perfumes will give you an idea of what you like so you can buy a bigger bottle without wasting £70+ a time!
I mention perfume here because it`s a psychologically important item! it can help lift dysphoria, and just generally lift your spirits, but perfume even moreso than clothes is a Very Personal thing, so don`t get using your wifes! buy your own. she may not say anything, but I promise you she won`t like it if you do use hers! (even if it`s her idea!).
Start looking after your skin too, it`s never too soon to get into a good habit of cleanse, tone and moisturise before bed every day, and use facial cleansing wipes in the morning (avoid soap!), a good skin care routine pays dividends later.
Practice basic makup (and no you Don`t need eyeshadow, no matter what color), a simple concealer, face powder, eyeliner and mascara, some lippy, and Maybe blusher is all the makeup you should ever really need if you learn how to use it well (and it`s not hard when you get used to it).
and That should equip you well enough for going out for your first time! even if it`s a year or 2 from now, just knowing that you have All you need to do that whenever you want to, will be of HUGE psychological value!
hope that helps? xx
I wished they had a "thumbs Up" emoticon here, cause that would of been what I would of posted .
