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25-01-2019, 11:54 PM
(This post was last modified: 26-01-2019, 08:26 AM by
kimi9r.)
Julie,
An interesting “article”, and whilst I don’t agree completely with everything, I can really identify with a lot of those “stages/phases”, generally speaking.
As also mentioned by others, I’m not a great fan of the term “sissy”. I view that phrase somewhat derogatively, or, at the very least as a fetish, associated with frilly pink tutus, and stuff like that - and there’s nothing wrong with the latter, if that’s what floats your boat, then fine.
I’ve never seen myself as a sissy, and never will, and I certainly don’t see it as a stage that someone has to go through on “their journey” from M to F.
However, having said that, maybe it’s a transient “state of mind” kind of thing, that someone may use to describe themselves, either with positive or negative connotations, because they don’t understand, or are unwilling to accept, things that are happening to them, and they’ve got nothing else they can use.
But it was “Phase 11” that you quoted in your “post” that was a bit surprising, and got me thinking: “SRS is sometimes undertaken but usually regretted”. I doubt I’ll ever go down that path, way too long in the tooth for those kinds of dramatic changes – yes, maybe 20-30 years ago I might have considered it, but not now – besides which I kinda like what I’ve got down there, I’ve got nothing against it, and it’s still capable of thinking for itself (embarrassingly so, on occasions LOL).
From my perspective, the biggest “change”, that someone could go through, and quite possibly regret, would be going from closet/part-time to full-time, and then realising you’ve done the wrong thing. Of course it’s not irreversible, but you’ve gone from hiding in the shadows, and got through all the emotional and family and work and “life in general” related issues, to announce to the world that you’ve arrived, and then it happens... you have that “Hmm, maybe not” epiphany moment – damn, that would suck.
Going back to your old-life from there, has got to be psychologically traumatic – in fact I doubt that you ever would get completely back to where you started from – you, as an individual, may be able to rationalise and deal with it, but what’s been seen (by others) can’t be unseen, can it, there would always be some residual crap floating around... “I thought you...?”, “Didn’t you...?”, “Weren’t you..?” which would bring the whole thing rushing back.
Having the twig and berries removed is not a requirement, and there’s no time limit on having it done (other than maybe age related concerns). So I would’ve thought that if you decided to do it, you and your therapist and doctors would’ve dealt with the psych issues, that you would’ve jumped through whatever hoops they throw in your way, that you’re pretty well set on the full female path (and would have been for some time) and that you’d have been forced to consider the pros ‘n cons of surgery on numerous occasions. So surely GRS/SRS would come as a relief, “I’ve finally got the end”, and not something that you’d regret having done.
I don’t know, maybe I am just being naive, and maybe that’s not the case? But either way it was a surprising statement.
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