I have been mulling over you situation and it worries me. I lived, near on 55 years of my life, denying and hiding, from me and I really do not want anyone else going down the same route, un-neccessarily. I realise that I may take the high ground, of a convert, but I am only too aware of the self deception & angnt, that stalks T-girls. For me, to acknowledge myself, has been an act of huge liberation.
I feel, that you should, find it in yourself, to present, in the role, in which you are most comtortable; my experience is, that people will be much more accepting, than, you fear; after all, we have nothing to fear, other than fear itself.