My guess is, there is an issue of Bias. As in, the audience has a specific sex makeup, and most if not all, are unqualified to answer Question 1. ;-)
At the same time, the remainder are here - and looking to grow breasts, generally speaking.
Making the selection bias for Question 2 100%.
As for me, now that I have my 46Cs, now I'm looking at the world with different views - NOW, I wonder, "Why was I living so deep in my head?" (Mom has dementia, it's been a ride, and I'm learning a LOT more about myself than I wanted to know - much more internalized bad behaviors, maybe even genetic, so I'm a bit worried, and very unsure of who I am, who I could've been - which hurts - and who I want to be now, and how those different things all contradict each other.)
My guess on the questions, though:
I don't think most women really want a penis. Funny, in a way, as many women WANT a penis, they just want someone else to own that penis directly, and then they "own" the owner of the penis...
Which maybe is how the second question would b answered, too: She carries "his" breasts.
Division of labor...
Now, I'm being a little facetious above, but there are reddits and forums from around the world, where the same basic things echo:
- Women don't have forums where they wish they had a penis, generally. And the FTM population seems far smaller than the MTF, and I'm including the Fictionmania, Literotica, etc., as well as trans* forums. Just seems less common, by far.
- Men have forums for wearing (female / feminine) lingerie, and clothes. Women just wear men's clothes if they feel like it. No one notices. Men are berated, women aren't. BUT...
- Women seem to have an intense DISLIKE of men who are Femme, Bi, gay, and the latest place I was reading about this was a Femboy reddit... Not to mention, if a woman finds panties in a man's place, she's thinking he's cheating on her, first, and then if he says he's a transvestite, crossdresser, transgender, sissy, whatever, she's in shock, asks if he's gay, may just end the relationship... Yet for contrast, when writing the book, "Self-made Man," Norah Vincent went undercover as a man, and part of the research was dating... And when she revealed the deception to the women she was dating, many were willing to excuse the deception... Wanted to continue the relationship.
Makes you think, doesn't it?
I think women have a severe dislike for a man who isn't THE ALPHA, and "submitting" to another man destroys her respect for a man. She can't see him the same way. It's ironic to me, but it seems there's The Sisterhood, and The Penis. If you submit to the penis, you're a woman, part of the Sisterhood, and playing the Female intrasexual competition, whereas the male group, which is just the outgroup contrasted with Team Woman (The Sisterhood). But like a fish in water, women can't understand how different men are, think there's still a Team Man / Bros before hos sort of thing, and - Transmen have said, NO, it's NOT like that, AT ALL. (We could've told you, ladies, but you wouldn't believe us...)
Buck Angel has spoken about this from the FTM side, and we hear it all the time in reverse, the MTF side, how the world changes... The camaraderie and emotional support the MTF finds, compared to the isolation and loneliness of the FTM. No one is really aware of what's on the other side, but the indicators are all there, suggesting that women don't NEED the male organ, they're mostly fine as they are, despite their complaints. Whereas, men face different social roles from the start, and - as mentioned, I have my own - the feminine attributes are VERY in the way. Hard to carry things when they'll hurt the girls, and the change in center of gravity, and the occasional sharp edges, or weight shift, that HURTS. I'm told it's like a man getting hit in the balls - I'd agree. A boob shot, even when off estrogen and they're not sensitive, is debilitating, and even doing things like a bench press, takes some effort.
So it's not just the social censure, it's the physical inconveniences, that would stop guys from regularly growing breasts.
And I have known girls who wanted them much smaller, as well. She wants her boobs, yes, but small Bs, you know. Enough she's a Woman, obviously, but they're less in the way.
With all that said, I'm still thinking some men would grow breasts, and some women would want a penis, and more men would grow breasts than women want a penis, since she can improvise anyway - doesn't need to have the original equipment, that specific item isn't too important. And if she wants to USE one, that's easy, but if he wants a woman - he has a LOT to do, even today, to get boobs to play with. (And far more back when society was stricter.)
Sorry I meandered a bit there.
-Dianna
