[PerkyAcups]

I think the wife is definitely noticing the breasts more lately for some reason. Today I was wearing a collegiate men’s tank top. I was saying I needed to pack for a family reunion. She said don’t pack that. She says sorry. I was about to be mean. I replied I know. I won’t wear it. She walked by me in the hall yesterday, I caught her looking down at my chest then look back up. She seems to be aware of them

[PerkyAcups]

kind of a big step today.  My wife came in and said she had something weird to ask. She said there is a sale going on for her tank tops that I have borrowed a couple times to 'keep my nipples from showing'.  She said she could order me a couple.  She brought down a medium and large and had me try them both on.  I told her I liked the medium because it pushed my chest in flatter.  As I was taking the tank top off I let my breasts fall out of the tank. She went back to her computer and came back down a few minutes later saying she ordered me 5 so I could wear one every day.  I think that was a pretty big step in her acknowledging my breasts.

[Shirazmn]

@Perky that's amazing.
When your wife does that it provides a mountain of validation! It's a huge step! I am very happy for you!

I would suggest you play it carefully now. Use the tank tops only when nobody outside the couple is around. Normalize it slowly, but make it "your little secret". Validation is a slippery slope. Savour it rather than shooting it down! With time you'll be able to build on it.

[PerkyAcups]

@Perky that's amazing.
When your wife does that it provides a mountain of validation! It's a huge step! I am very happy for you!

I would suggest you play it carefully now. Use the tank tops only when nobody outside the couple is around. Normalize it slowly, but make it "your little secret". Validation is a slippery slope. Savour it rather than shooting it down! With time you'll be able to build on it.

thank you Shirazmn,  

she just came back into my office talking about it.  I told her thank you. And how hers works better than my tank tops. She said they are thicker fabric and a bit softer to wear under your clothes.  and again she said you should have enough to wear one every day.  I said thanks again. She said no problem, we gotta get our under clothing figured out.  

I like what you are saying about normalizing it and making my little secret. I am thinking I will treat them like bras.  Wear one everyday under my clothes.  Not walking around with just the tank top.  Not letting anyone see it except for her.  I think she is buying them knowing I need to hide my nipples and maybe my breasts. I am thinking wearing it discreetly everyday she will know I am wearing them often by finding them in the laundry.  See where we go from here.  

I have a bra I really like wearing (one that you recommended), it is so invisible and comfortable, but I have not let her see it yet. So I think I will switch to the tank tops for the time being and enjoy the wifes validation. I am just really excited she is thinking I need to wear something under my shirts even if it is just a tank top for now.

[Shirazmn]

Great plan!
Girls wear tank tops instead of bras all the time,  so you're 100% legit. Actually, you reminded me that I need to go back to tank tops instead of sports bras for the cold season. They keep my belly warm.

Looks like you're up for a great time. If I were in your shoes right now, I'd be walking around with an ear-to-ear smile for at least a month!

[PerkyAcups]

I appreciate what you're saying about being legit because girls wear tank tops for bras.  

I am on cloud 9.  Her buying me tank tops to wear under my shirts makes me feel like I just graduated to a new a level.  I have secretly been wearing a bra under my tshirts occassionaly when i was embarrassed how they fit. But I always felt guilty for hiding it from wife.  But her buying me these tank tops I feel like it is okay for me to wear them everyday and I have her support. I don't have to feel like I am hiding anything from her anymore.  I feel like it was the biggest step I have taken to validate I have breasts. 

and I am grinning from ear to ear. I feel like a new person.

[PerkyAcups]

Great plan!
Girls wear tank tops instead of bras all the time,  so you're 100% legit. Actually, you reminded me that I need to go back to tank tops instead of sports bras for the cold season. They keep my belly warm.

Looks like you're up for a great time. If I were in your shoes right now, I'd be walking around with an ear-to-ear smile for at least a month!

apparently GAP has them on sale 50% off.

[PerkyAcups]

sorry, I just can't stop thinking about my conversation with the wife today.  You know, she could have just ordered 1 or 2, but she ordered 5 so i could wear one everyday.  I think that says a lot.

[Karen Hart]

This is exciting news! 

I gotta know, what color are the tank tops?

I think your wife likes the idea of your breasts getting bigger and more feminine. 
She is hiding that from you, and you are hiding it from her. 
That's okay. This can be a fun little dance between the two of you. 

If I were you, I would get back on a regimen and push it.
If she sees some growth, she will likely recommend a bra on her own. 
She will recommend it as a "logical' thing to do but deep down, she craves it.
She just does not want to admit it. Let it simmer!

Karen 

[PerkyAcups]

They are white, same color hers are.  I am wearing out and about right now under a snug tshirt. You can see the lines on my back, but I don’t care.  I’m liking the support and my shirt looks better. I’m mostly liking my wife bought them for me to wear. 

I don’t know how much she really wants my breasts bigger. I know she wants a masculine man. But she may like some breasts if I keep acting my normal male self: 

I am going to have think about getting back on a regiment. I’m nervous to go to the pool if I get much bigger. But I am thinking about it. Maybe just a short cycle