[Shirazmn]

@Perky That myst be some heavy weight that you got off your shoulders. You've been brave and I wish you all the best.
I do not want to discuss your ability to actualy stay off NBE in the future, more or less everyone I know who tried NBE sooner or later "relapsed", but I must suggest that you should at least resist the first time the chance arises. 
Let me explain and keep in mind that, although this is from my personal experience, I have seen the same pattern in other couples. Your wife probably has questions now. Transition is the obvious one, but even if you say no, society will say otherwise. At some point she will want to put you to the test, and that could be almost subconscious even from her point of view. A time will come, probably in the next couple of months, when she'll say something like "As long as they don't get bigger than mine..." or "Don't worry, I am OK, with it if you want a bit more." Or somethign along those lines. That's the test. Don't take it as an excuse to restart or to think that you can just get a larger set and then "blame" that on her. It's a way to prove if you think it's more important to be "normal" with her, or if it's more important to grow boobs. 
I know that right now you are 100% convinced that you can and will stop. Hold on to that feeling and, most importantly, hold on to the feeling of relaxation to not having to hide anymore. Let things cool down and, if in the future you'll feel a strong urge to restart, look into yourself and find that "normalcy" feeling again, gauging how good that felt VS the feeling of further growth. 

Good luck and enjoy this moment of bliss. I am sure your wife is as cool as it gets and you should be happy and proud to have her next to you!

[PerkyAcups]

@Shiraz, thank you!  It was a huge weight off of my shoulders.  It feels good to not be hiding anything from her. It feels good to have someone else knows the struggles I have. 

I am a little concerned about relapsing. I told her if I relapsed on anything it would probably be growing breasts. I remind myself I accomplished what I wanted.  Big enough breasts to need a bra.  She hasn't said anything or showed any attention to my breasts since I told her.  I have been wearing my new bras all day except for sleeping for concealment.  

I was taken aback how wearing a bra daily for only a few weeks has made it hard to go braless. I tried a few days ago.  My shirt fit funny, my nipples were sensitive rubbing on the shirt, I missed the support of the bra.  I felt out of sorts.  On the way out the door I looked in the mirror, went back to the room and put a bra on. I don't think I can go back to not wearing one.  Maybe that is all I needed.  Every once in while putting my bra on I have that WTF have done moment, but it passes quickly.  Time will tell, but I agree. It is not going to be easy to never try to grow them bigger.

[Billie88]

I'm glad to hear you were able to talk with her and that the conversation went fairly well... Ish?

Having that weight off your shoulders must be a relief! (especially now that you have the weight from your breasts & bra! Lol)

I 100% understand what you mean about not being able to leave without wearing a bra after wearing it full time...

It feels WEIRD!!

I miss the "hug" and support!

I know it isn't the same, but when you get into a mood where you feel like growing your breasts more, could you try using thicker padding (if you're wearing a sports bra or the tanks I talked about) or the bust enhancer cups to give you a bit more lift/projection?

When my head goes there, I do that for a bit and it seems to help me get by... For now.

[PerkyAcups]

I know it isn't the same, but when you get into a mood where you feel like growing your breasts more, could you try using thicker padding (if you're wearing a sports bra or the tanks I talked about) or the bust enhancer cups to give you a bit more lift/projection?

When my head goes there, I do that for a bit and it seems to help me get by... For now.

@Billie88, this is a great idea.  I can enjoy the breasts I have. Then some days when I am feeling in the mood, I can pad my bra for some extra size.  I am going to give it a try.

[Billie88]

As a follow-up...

I realized I forgot to send you the link for the pads I found to be BY FAR my favorite!

Latex Foam Bra Insert Pads

 The 32 degrees tanks that I love come with circle foam pads that have material glued to foam core. After a couple wears the fabric starts to lift from the foam causing weird ripple impressions which piss me off to no end!

I actually originally found those latex foam inserts on temu and got them as a filler item (HA!) 

They are 100% my goto!

Their shape is perfect to contour and accentuate what breast I have and they are so goddamn soft!!!

In some of my tanks I wear them directly on my skin and once they get a bit warm they seem to stick a bit. 

Alternatively, you can try the silicone enhancer nipple covers but I found them to be too thin.

Hope this helps!!!

[Gabrielle]

Not all men, but almost always men. At this point I also think those men who know better, but stay silent, are still doing harm e.g. in groups where misogynistic discussions arise. And it's tedious to have to point these things out so often, I get it, it's tempting to stay silent but that helps propagating the discussions. This is why I feel I have to chime in, I'm sorry, Perky, to derail this even further.

But breasts are NOT for sexual objectification. Any body part is NOT for sexual objectification. Women are NOT for sexual objectification. Neither are men, of course. Nobody is. Objectification is literally viewing or treating someone without regard for their individuality and humanity.

So yes, judging someone because they have/don't have/want to grow/don't want to grow breasts is objectifying. Telling someone their bazongas are schmexy is objectifying and insulting. This is largely a problem among men, there are probably studies that count numbers as well. I think it's cultural, men need to learn empathy among other things to ditch this behaviour. And the fact that men often don't even recognise they're saying something hurtful shows that generally it's the men saying this stuff to women, the men aren't used to hearing hurtful stuff about themselves so they don't even know it hurts (on top of all the "man up, be tough" macho behaviour).

Also being man doesn't make it any more OK to act this way, stuff like "oh, men can say this but it's not okay if women say it" is the definition of sexism. Men are not victims of some weird biological misogyny-gene. They just need to learn to do better, just like most women have learned.

I feel so exhausted. I have to explain this at work regularly. Now I have to explain it here, of all places! Thought BN was a sanctuary

Sending hugs to Heaven's Night. I feel you.

I some what understand what you are saying, but i also disagree with you. Breasts which are defining for a women and her femineity. The charatistics' of a women, child birth. Men cant help love a good pair of boobs, and i here women say the same thing as well. We are human beings and we can see the beauty in differances in people and body parts.

[PerkyAcups]

It has been a month since I told my wife I intentionally grew breasts, often wish they were bigger, and wearing sexy bra and panties sounds nice.  I threw a lot at her that day and I know she is still frustrated and not happy about some of the things I told her.  She has really been pretty amazing.  She is supportive in me continuing therapy and going to meetings.  She can see that I am happier these days and more attentive.  I would say our marriage is stronger now than it has ever been.  I would say I love her more than I ever have.  

However, she hasn't made any comments on my breasts.  She knows I am wearing compression bras daily. One night she rolled over and bit my nipple without saying anything.  

Last night she asked how therapy went. I replied, it wasn't an easy day, some things are hard to talk about.  She said, you can tell me if you want to.  After a long pause to get my courage, I said we were talking about my grooming choices and why I grew breasts.  She didn't really say anything, bit we went on having a good evening together.  It took a lot of courage to tell her all of these things I have shared with her recently.  I feel confident everything will be okay now. 

It is kind of weird, my wife knowing I grew real breasts really made me realize I have real breasts.  I don't know, just her knowing or maybe her not responding you don't have breasts validated I do have breasts.    I am super aware of them now.  Other than showering and sleeping I have kept them covered.  I was working in the yard the other day. It was pretty hot, a perfect day to get a little sun.  I normally always would have been topless in this situation.  This day I really wanted to, but it felt awfully exposing. I tried to put a tank top on, but that felt even more exposing.  I ended in a bra and t-shirt.  Other than being hot, it felt good being covered and supported.  And I was afraid my wife would think I was enjoying flaunting my breasts for neighbors to see.  I guess telling her is what finally pushed my mind into full breast mode.