(27-06-2012, 07:55 AM)Demon Lord Etna Wrote: This is "dont feel bad" advice. Not quite the same as "feel good" advice. This thread is intended for positive outlooks. Acknowledging minor victories to feel better about yourself.
If you're running in a race and you see the person in front of you slow down, what do you do? Your brain sees it, and you get a subconcious second wind. Even if you were tired before, you aren't anymore because all you can think about is 'I'm gonna pass him right now'. You don't really go any faster, but you feel faster and you feel better about yourself. Positive perspective grants positive results.
If someone starts passing you, you get a similar subconcious response, but instead of 'I'm gonna pass him', a positive, you get 'I'm not gonna let him pass me', a negative. This time you actually do run faster, but in order to keep yourself from getting passed you run so much harder and faster that you exhaust yourself and have to stop, so you get passed anyway. Negative perspective, negative result.
I think whether it's NBE, physical fitness or losing weight, it's important for people to have realistic expectations of what's attainable in order to be able to appreciate their minor victories. Without this foundation I think it's unlikely to be able to encourage those who have grand and overblown dreams of growing breasts or achieving any other goal. I think once people are grounded in reality in regards to NBE they're much more receptive to "feel good" advice.
I do think advising people to post their pictures is a good opportunity to receive support and encouragement. In my opinion, people want to know whether they're making progress or whether they're stalling and need to change something.
Maybe I'm off-base with this. I think a recent experience I had regarding this was when I posted my 3 months pictures. I asked about not seeing progress and sfem responded by sharing his experience of going several months of not seeing any visible changes. Even though his advice would be more of the "don't feel bad" category, it's reassuring to know someone can relate to my concerns.