Hi Clara,
as always. you raise many very real questions and thoughts which we should all be aware of.
I do so wonder if it is a spring time thing, the natural juices are running high and one or two of us seem to be raising doubts as to the wisdom of this course.
It seems to be fairly common, and when one considers it, perfectly understandable, that those of us on this path who are not single mindedly going after a life time goal of being female have periodic doubts and questions. We are, after all, in life changing territory!!
All I can suggest is that each of us has to listen to our own hearts and minds.
Whilst not wishing to lose touch with anyone here, I would also suggest that a break from both the herbs AND this forum is useful in sorting out ones mindset. It is so easy whilst being engulfed in this community to assume that he whole world is like us lot here - of course it isn't in reality.
Speaking personally, I still haven't a clue why I am growing as I am - from choice. Every day I have periods of introspection when I think 'why Oh why' ... but still I am looking at my watch for the time of the next female pill!! And every time I go to the loo, I look at my boobs in the mirror seeking a bit more roundness, a bit more growth, I inspect the size of nipples and areolae etc.
I probably started this in 'fetish mode' as you put it, just liking the feelings and sensations - now, I am not sure that is it at all.... I just love being more feminine, I love the emotions I now have, I like wanting my hair to look nice, I like caring, I want to wear nice clothes, I like the softness of my skin (but now don’t like being scratched by briers or bashing my finger with a hammer etc. which never used to bother me at all), I like the new found closeness with my wife and I adore having growing and sensitive boobs.
So, where am I going in all this - I have no idea. I sort of think that whilst externally still carrying predominantly male characteristics, as long as I dress and act gender neutral to male (at least in public) , it doesn't really matter about boob growth - people don't notice that much anyway and if they do, well there are medical conditions around which could explain it.
The real question though is 'what is going on in my head and body' - that one I cannot, despite considerable reflection, rationalise.
I guess that, as I see it, this is the point - we need to reflect rather than pile in to NBE all guns blazing - but certainly personally speaking, introspection doesn't necessarily provide any definitive answer.
For now though, at 21:44 tonight I don't want to stop NBE - by 21:45 I might have changed my mind - it is a female prerogative you know!!!!

M x