3rd Appointment
Well, boys, boy/girls and girls, This is where I am going to place the rest of my outcomes with my Therapist.
Today, we focused on just who, and how much my family knows of my Transgenderism. And focus on separating brain (logic) from the heart (wants, fears, desires).
I told her my wife was sort of o.k. with my cross dressing, but I felt she was threatened by it. That she "wants to keep the blanket up over her eyes." You know, what she don't see , she need not accept, that type of thing. Also, that she is unaware that I would like to get comfortable enough to "go out on the town" en femme.
I also told her that my wife is the one that suggested I "come out" to my doctor about my feminization with herbs.
I told my therapist, that my daughter, "though living with us due to divorce" knows I wear bra's, but for privacy sake only. Not my desire to express my inner girl further.
She gave me a few suggestions on how I could "fully come out" with out being too meek or aggressive with my immediate family. Not sure if anyone else would like to know a few of the suggestions. But if enough post that they would like me to, I would be more than willing to post them on this thread.
The therapist also congratulated me on finding and setting an appointment with a TG specialist (Doctor). He is soooo busy, that new patient waiting list is 6 weeks right now. She said it took a lot of courage to want to explore the possibilities.
Well, boys, boy/girls and girls, This is where I am going to place the rest of my outcomes with my Therapist.
Today, we focused on just who, and how much my family knows of my Transgenderism. And focus on separating brain (logic) from the heart (wants, fears, desires).
I told her my wife was sort of o.k. with my cross dressing, but I felt she was threatened by it. That she "wants to keep the blanket up over her eyes." You know, what she don't see , she need not accept, that type of thing. Also, that she is unaware that I would like to get comfortable enough to "go out on the town" en femme.
I also told her that my wife is the one that suggested I "come out" to my doctor about my feminization with herbs.
I told my therapist, that my daughter, "though living with us due to divorce" knows I wear bra's, but for privacy sake only. Not my desire to express my inner girl further.
She gave me a few suggestions on how I could "fully come out" with out being too meek or aggressive with my immediate family. Not sure if anyone else would like to know a few of the suggestions. But if enough post that they would like me to, I would be more than willing to post them on this thread.
The therapist also congratulated me on finding and setting an appointment with a TG specialist (Doctor). He is soooo busy, that new patient waiting list is 6 weeks right now. She said it took a lot of courage to want to explore the possibilities.
This post was last modified: 13-09-2016, 11:25 PM by The First Aria.
I see a Psychologist a Psychiatrist and go to support groups for my issues. But coming out to my family is very difficult. I have just done what I want to do and they learn about it by saying that's just me. Going through your coming out story is a brave journey, telling us is a special helping hand to us.
All of you, my friends, have indeed humbled me. I am not such a great story teller. That is, other than dirty jokes. LOL..
I will do so sometime in the morning, and hopefully do all of you justice. Because, above all else, I have loved my wife since she was 15 and wish her no harm or duress.
Because here pretty soon, I am afraid even though my wife knows of my proclivities, she is not totally aware. So, I will have to do some serious thinking on how to approach this. And maybe relating some of the idea's my therapist gave me, plus a little feedback maybe of great help to me.
So, until tomorrow..... Goodnight all.
I will do so sometime in the morning, and hopefully do all of you justice. Because, above all else, I have loved my wife since she was 15 and wish her no harm or duress.
Because here pretty soon, I am afraid even though my wife knows of my proclivities, she is not totally aware. So, I will have to do some serious thinking on how to approach this. And maybe relating some of the idea's my therapist gave me, plus a little feedback maybe of great help to me.
So, until tomorrow..... Goodnight all.
That's fantastic iaboy, glad to hear that the sessions are going well.
Out of curiosity, do you think it would be easier if both of you at some point saw the therapist at the same time? That way there is a sort of 3rd party that can help mediate the conversation.
Looking forward to the next installment.
Out of curiosity, do you think it would be easier if both of you at some point saw the therapist at the same time? That way there is a sort of 3rd party that can help mediate the conversation.
Looking forward to the next installment.
(14-09-2016, 04:25 AM)iaboy Wrote: All of you, my friends, have indeed humbled me. I am not such a great story teller. That is, other than dirty jokes. LOL..
I will do so sometime in the morning, and hopefully do all of you justice. Because, above all else, I have loved my wife since she was 15 and wish her no harm or duress.
Because here pretty soon, I am afraid even though my wife knows of my proclivities, she is not totally aware. So, I will have to do some serious thinking on how to approach this. And maybe relating some of the idea's my therapist gave me, plus a little feedback maybe of great help to me.
So, until tomorrow..... Goodnight all.
I am really looking forward iaboy! I think information you receive from your therapist and your insight will be very useful for many of us.
Keep your stories going!
(And one or two dirty jokes would make no harm
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(14-09-2016, 04:35 AM)Sofia Lauren Bunny Wrote: That's fantastic iaboy, glad to hear that the sessions are going well.
Out of curiosity, do you think it would be easier if both of you at some point saw the therapist at the same time? That way there is a sort of 3rd party that can help mediate the conversation.
Looking forward to the next installment.
Well, funny you mention that. I think, not for sure, that is where my therapist might be going. I think she wants me to at least try to open up to my wife more on my own first. But, like I said, it's just my gut feeling right now.
(14-09-2016, 01:56 PM)iaboy Wrote:(14-09-2016, 04:35 AM)Sofia Lauren Bunny Wrote: That's fantastic iaboy, glad to hear that the sessions are going well.
Out of curiosity, do you think it would be easier if both of you at some point saw the therapist at the same time? That way there is a sort of 3rd party that can help mediate the conversation.
Looking forward to the next installment.
Well, funny you mention that. I think, not for sure, that is where my therapist might be going. I think she wants me to at least try to open up to my wife more on my own first. But, like I said, it's just my gut feeling right now.
Well tread lightly on your own, I hope it doesn't turn ugly. Having the therapist keeping the peace and helping one another keep an open mind about things would be most beneficial. It's funny, but a lot of times we never listen to the ones we love, but an outside party says it and it's like the first time hearing and it totally makes sense. Meanwhile you have a confused puzzled look thinking or perhaps saying aloud, WTF?? that's what I've been saying all this time!!
Well again, best of luck, looking forward to the next chapter.
The problem, Sofia, is that being labeled "Trans-gendered" never, NEVER felt like that was an accurate description. To me, that is when a person want to be full time the opposite of what he/she was born as. Or, a person who wants to do the complete SRS thing.
The way my mind thinks, to be called trans-gendered, is worse than being called a transvestite. In my world, a transvestite just get a thrill sexually from cross dressing. And assumed to have some mental defect.
Now I realize, that the term has been made to encase all facets of the above. It will take some time before I get accustomed to having that label attached to me. I am just now understanding, that it's a label that Doctor's, Therapists and the like use to differentiate from the real troubled persons and I have to accept that I am not flawed, but it's MY normal.
The way my mind thinks, to be called trans-gendered, is worse than being called a transvestite. In my world, a transvestite just get a thrill sexually from cross dressing. And assumed to have some mental defect.
Now I realize, that the term has been made to encase all facets of the above. It will take some time before I get accustomed to having that label attached to me. I am just now understanding, that it's a label that Doctor's, Therapists and the like use to differentiate from the real troubled persons and I have to accept that I am not flawed, but it's MY normal.
This post was last modified: 14-09-2016, 04:29 PM by The First Aria.
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