CM213
25-06-2024, 09:06 PM
@Randicd1023
I know exactly how you feel. I too feel like I don't quite belong and or fit in with what society and people say are traditional male roles or the roles that people expect me to play and Excel at. Internally I have to admit that they don't feel right. I've made the most of what I am and can do, especially with my physique and appearance since again it's what is expected of men, and protectors. I had a passion for bodybuilding, but I knew I'd never become a pro or be able to go as far as I wanted to take it. At some point it became more about continuing to do it bc that's what was expected of.me from all that knew me. Facial hair, short military faded haircuts and maintaining lean muscle became something I did more to appease everyone else In my life. Granted being a bigger muscular guy had it's benefits, people rarely threaten you or try to mess with you. There is security in being a bigger guy, but in the end I feel I'm just going through the motions with everything in life. I feel I hardly smile anymore.
The first time I dressed up, wore my wig, did my make up, I could not stop smiling. In pictures I see a genuine smile vs a forced one. That's one of the moments I felt like myself. A big turning point in making me realize that I'm not supposed to be who I have been living my life as all this time, and that I am something more. That there's something inside worth exploring. All this time I've been trying to ignore and repress, for the first time I could not ignore it anymore, and I've been much happier and way less stressed out since I have been allowing it to manifest naturally, and exploring this feminine side of my self.
Like you said it's definitely not a sprint, but a marathon. Keep your goals in mind, keep visualizing who you want to be, and go after it relentlessly and before you know it you will become that person.