CM213
17-10-2024, 12:27 AM
Stevenator Yes I would agree. Lol. I'm hoping to start first week of November. I've planted the seed in my wife's mind, and after having another "initial consultation" I'll have prescriptions that she will now know about.
To catch up. I told her that the mental health specialist put in recommendations for Endo, laser hair removal, and voice therapy. And that Endo called me and wanted to schedule our first appointment. In which I told her I wasn't sure when I could get it scheduled, but wanted to try and get it done before Nov, and that it would be purely educational, a way for me to talk to an expert and ask all questions etc.
Which lead to a conversation that I know she struggles with. Which only confirms my suspicion that she's ok with anything as long as it doesn't involve actual change or transition.
I know she is torn, for a lot of reasons. I know she doesn't want me to transition for those same reasons. I know she loves me and wants me to be happy, and do what ever I feel I need to do for my health as well. Starting hormones, even if it's a low dose trial run for 2-3 months before checking back in with Endo is the start of transition. Which it could very well be, but I don't know till I try It. For all I know I could get on HRT and feel even worse and decide it's not for me. Who knows. I'm hoping things will be good on HRT. But I won't know until I try it.
And I'm trying to give her time to adjust, but if I don't move the ball forward it will never get moved forward. She would be fine ignoring the elephant in the room for as long a I allow it to be ignored. Which will only hurt our relationship just as bad as she thinks transition will or worse.
I am tired of living life to please everyone else, to live my life and be as everyone else expects me to do based on how I look. I want to take the mask off.
That being said I'm willing to move slowly and hopefully slow enough for my wife to adjust and cope. I hope with this she takes a more serious and active role in educating herself and not just go on what society and her up bringing has taught her about trans individuals.