Thank you Sammie as ever for your kind words.
The magic is still with us today, and the partnership is sealed. No doubt there will be some bumps and rough places to come along the way, but I'm so happy.
There I was preaching friendship, and indeed it was an essential base, but partnership was the key. I so hope it may serve you and your DW too. In the meanwhile the hugs and kisses are bubbling over, so take as many as you can use.
Clara, yes indeed you have the essence of it. Full disclosure of matters relevant to partnership issues is another ingredient. J told me yesterday that when she went to our NP over a month ago seeking amongst other things a renewed prescription for tranquilizers (the few pills she had dated from my mother's last visit here well over ten years ago), the NP asked why she wanted them, and said that, presumably because she is only recently qualified, she would not be able to prescribe them until September, but having extracted the reason for the request, did refer her to a counselor, who is the one she has been seeing rather than the one she learned about at the PFLAG meeting she went to six weeks ago. The referral has the advantage of being at the province's expense rather than ours.
It seems that we both misinterpreted the NP's initial reaction to my original disclosure. She was surprised perhaps but apparently all agog at the possibility of acquiring a transsexual patient. She asked J amongst other things whether I intended to transition., so may prove a useful resource. After this J researched transition further and discovered that New Brunswick is one of the few Canadian provinces that does not fund SRS, although that may not be a major problem depending on where our road takes us. A more serious problem is that we are all of a sudden at a point where we need competent professional guidance and we fear that even that may be difficult to find anywhere near here. Now that I know the NP's position, I'll try to get an appointment as soon as possible to see what assistance she may be able to provide us. Failing that, SCC should be a resource. We think I should still go there on my own this year, but next year is quite a different matter.
Hugs and kisses and glow all around.
I am currently in a state of suspended belief.